Hey Guys,

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Frank Tuesday is here again! I do hope that this time, it is consistent. You should see me rushing to type this at work, looking back to see if my supervisor is watching me or not! Don’t worry guys, all will stabilize soon and I’ll be posting series maybe twice weekly. I have big plans for this blog-site ‘so help me God’ and I will accomplish them.
There’s a new topic today and I have written it because I believe that a lot of us especially ladies are directly being affected by this issue. The topic is, ‘Making the Right Choices’  Read the full story here…

It’s puzzling how quick my answers were the
first time my father asked me this question.
“What kind of man do you hope to get married to
when you come off age?”
I didn’t need a dictionary to tell me what I
already had in mind so, I gave my answer. “He has to be tall have a beautiful
body, speak well…a foreign accent, not too Nigerian, have a foreign
education, I’d love a half-caste, I want him to have a fleet of cars, own a
huge company and be very rich.”
For a long time, I didn’t understand the look my
father gave me after I had given him my answer or the fact that he kept quiet
and continued the watching the 9 o’clock news as though I had never spoken.
Now I understand. Do such men exist? I know that
as ladies we conjure images in our heads as to what we hope our dream husbands
will look like or be like but is that really possible? Can we get it all?
Growing through the challenges of every phase of life including encountering
men who match the physical qualities you seek yet hold no torch to the inner
qualities you need or vice versa, I realize that we actually need to be
prepared for disappointment.
Don’t take it personal! When I say
disappointment, I mean ‘accepting whoever we love just the way they are’
besides we are not perfect. For every individual, there is a hidden quality
that makes the person different from the other and this is what sets us apart
from everyone else, hence I urge every woman to look for that in the search for
a soul mate.
The questions you should ask yourself are:
1.      Do
I see myself next to him in the next twenty years?
2.      Are
we compatible?
3.      What
are his best qualities?
4.      How
much do I love him?
5.      Does
he love me enough to do anything for me and can I do the same for him?
6.      Does
he love God as much as I do?
The sixth question is the most important as many
ladies run from that question. I’m not going to delve into spiritual talk but
the truth is, when a man loves God, there’s this completeness or wholesomeness
that exists in your relationship with him. And because God, is a God of love,
it’s easier to understand the concept of love through God’s eyes hence, your
partner’s love for you grows deeper by the day.

In conclusion, I guess I’ve learnt my lesson the
hard way.  Most times, we do not choose
who to love, we choose eachother, it’s ordained by God and then, it’s PERFECT.


  1. I will add to your list: Can I take his "shits" and for how long? I added this because I have come to realise that when the two become one, over the days that turn to weeks, months and years (possibly), the couple tend to relax and reveal more of their true self's which could be full of shit.
    *just saying*

    You don't want to know the picture of my ideal woman when my mind plays its game on me…lol.

  2. Hahaha yes you can add to the list Ugo. Very true, people tend to reveal their true colours when they begin to stay with eachother for a long time and marriage is a really long journey.

    And yes, I'd like to know the picture of your ideal woman, even if it's a glimpse…
    Thanks for reading!

  3. We have to start being realistic to ourselves in a relationship, it's not always going to be a fairy tale. God should be in the centre of every relationship.


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